The Story Behind Diana Ross’s Gay Anthem “I’m Coming Out”
At the height of the homophobic “Disco Sucks” campaign, Motown superstar Diana Ross sings a tribute to her loyal gay fans
“There’s a new me coming out and I just have to live, and I wanna give. I’m completely positive.” – Diana Ross
On many occasions, Rodgers has explained the songwriting process of the song and how Diana reacted to the news of the song’s deeper purpose, even in his intimate autobiography Le Freak. It’s been alleged that the inspiration behind the song actually came from a late-night visit at a now-defunct New York City gay bar called the Gilded Grape. Another source named GG Barnum Room as the hangout spot. So why were Rodgers and Edwards hanging out at the gay bars? Well, at the gay bars in flashy New York City, the two were mostly introduced to “cutting-edge underground music and [eclectic] performers.”
During an interview with Billboard, Rodgers mentioned running across Diana lookalikes, and that was where the magic began. “We went to this transvestite club…[and] I went to the bathroom and happened to notice on either side there were a bunch of Diana Ross impersonators. I ran outside and called Bernard and told him about it and said, ‘What if we recognize Diana’s really cool alignment with her fan base in the gay community?’ So we sat down and wrote, ‘I’m Coming Out.'”
On another occasion, during a 2012 Billboard panel discussion at BB Kings in New York City, Rodgers chimed in on the importance of making a memento for Ross to her gay fans while making their one-time stint album with her. “The one thing we knew about Diana Ross was that she was an icon not only to the black community and not only to the female community, but the gay community who was so supportive of Diana,” he said.
At the time, Ross was quite sensitive about taking big risks during this time, as label execs were hammering her for a career breakthrough. But knowing this was an ode to her devout gay fans and to the many who preferred her longevity over new-age disco divas like Donna Summer and Gloria Gaynor, Ross agreed to the recording.
Released in the summer of 1980 as the second single from Diana, the follow-up to “Upside Down,” I’m Coming Out” was a Top 40 smash, peaking at number five on the pop charts. And even with the gay-centric lyricism and as the volatile homophobic war on disco began to organize, the public and mainstream ate it up. In the gay-friendly discotheques, the funky disco single quickly became their mantra, soaring almost immediately to the number one slot on Billboard’s Hot Disco Songs chart.
When asked by Rolling Stone about what the perfect pop song for her was, she brought up her musical gift to the gays. “I like songs that are positive and say something inspirational and make a difference in people’s lives,” she said. “‘I’m Coming Out’ is still one of those messages, whether it’s for gays or whether it’s for women.”
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